Tips on dating japanese girls
You don’t have to talk about all of these things with each dating partner, but you should definitely think about it especially with one that seems like it could evolve into a relationship. Are you looking for a casual hookup, a friend with benefits, a boyfriend/girlfriend, or a future marriage partner?
As mentioned before, you probably shouldn't actually discuss this, but early on in the dating process, you should figure out what you want from the relationship. If you are looking for a long-term relationship, set some long-term dates, like going to Sky Tree on Christmas or a romantic getaway to Okinawa during summer vacation.
If you keep an open mind and an adventuresome spirit, you could end up with some great dating stories, a fun love life, a solid relationship, or even an engagement ring after a couple of months living in Japan.
It is commonly believed that dating in Japan is easy for non-Asian (particularly white) men and hard for women.
Most of the time, if there is a concrete ending in sight (you are returning to your home country, graduating, or moving) couples will “ganbare” on until the end rather than just ending it.
This ties into some of the above points but needs a little extra emphasis.
I came across a blog post by zoomingjapn, a German girl living in Japan, writing about dating in Japan as a foreigner. She writes, ‘It is comparably easy for a western foreign man to find a Japanese woman or to have a nice relationship here in Japan’, but ‘it is extremely tough to find a date as a foreign woman here in Japan.’ Her story is interesting in itself but the most interesting part of the article is the huge number of comments gets – 162 comments (or about 30,000 words! A lot of people who commented actually disagree with her.
There are certain women that only try to date black men and men that only try to date white women. • With family: If you get to the point where you meet their family, expect a bit of resistance.
While parents are increasingly more liberal, they might be worried about you dumping their son or daughter when you finish your study abroad, volunteering, or working in Japan. No matter how fluently you speak Japanese, how long you have been living in the country, or how “Japanese” you act, if you do not look Japanese, you cannot become Japanese.
Or even worse, they might be worried about you getting married and taking their child back home to start a life abroad together that is thousands of miles away. Dating a Japanese person will be different than dating someone from your home country. It's not bad; some people think it is a great advantage.
A lot of Japanese couples are expected to get married in the event of an accidental pregnancy.
“Ganbare” is the Japanese way of saying “hang in there.” Japan is more liberal now than ever before, but racism still exists.
The physical parts of a relationship are fun, but you should be safe.